You know what? My disability does hold me back! I’m sick of pretending it doesn’t because society only thinks we’re worthy if we’re actively trying to “overcome” our disabilities or that we “defy the odds”. I’m sick of hearing “you can do anything you put your mind to” because that’s just not true and is often invalidating of the struggles disabled people face.
I am worthy either way, regardless of whether I can contribute in a way that society deems acceptable or not.
The same applies to you! You are worthy if you can’t drive, can’t finish school, can’t work a conventional job. You are worthy if you can’t live on your own without help. You are worthy if you’ll need assistance for the rest of your life. You are worthy, always.
Throw back to when I posted this on twitter with a comment about how completely stupid it is that if your boobs are a specific shape they’re deemed inappropriate or inherently sexual and I had people telling me how much the message resonated with them and how misogyny sucks, followed by “ I couldn’t hit like and I’m dming you about it because i have minors following me”
Like, my friend I don’t think we’re on the same page actually.
(“World’s Greatest Cocksucker”) or Guys with Pussys. Chris(teen) chats with Vern and Danny, two f2m* homos, and gets the dish on ‘passing’, cruising, and attitude. *female to male transexual
page 2: What percentage of F2Ms sleep with men after the change? It’s really hard to say exactly, because until about three years ago it was totally unacceptable to present a gay male identity, so people didn’t really present it outwardly.
Do you mean people weren’t “out” about it? Yes and I think the numbers are going to end up being a lot higher than people would even think. It makes sense to me, it’s the same as male to females wanting to be lesbians. I really understand why female to males would want to be gay, to reject femininity totally.
You’ve told me that while you prefer to sleep with women you do occasionally sleep with men. I don’t know about sleeping.
I think the readers would be interested in the details, where you pick your potential partners up and what you do. Well, I write my name on men’s room walls and I distribute these little cards.
Can I see one? Sure! Here’s a good one. Each one is a little different.
“World’s greatest cocksucker 353-3810" These are great! I love them! I leave them in various places, bathroom stalls and phone booths. If went to bars I would hand them out, but I don’t go to bars because I don’t drink.
page 3: What’s so different about man to man sex? This may not be true for everyone, but for me it’s really a good affirmation of masculinity. It helps me to affirm my masculinity. To be accepted as a gay male in the gay male community I really like that. When I used to hang out with women I really liked the feeling of community with just one gender, you know what I mean, even though I felt like an impostor. But I could appreciate that sense of community which was there, it was really nice. Sisterhood is powerful. So is brotherhood.
All the F2Ms I have met have been very attractive very virile guys. I perceive a style of masculinity which is not unlike gay male codes of masculinity. You know leather and denim, well built and macho! You’ve seen a lot of F2Ms who are great examples (there are those who aren’t so well balanced.) You’re talking about some pretty self confident people.
What is that swaggering style? I guess its self-confidence and a little overcompensation for the fact that you are a castrated man; maybe we have to be more “cocky.” Also if you show that you’re not confident that’s when people start to question you.
page 4: Vern
What did you mean when you say that there is genderphobia in the gay community and homophobia in the gender community? “Genderphobia” is my term. I made it up because there is a clone movement in the non-heterosexual community to make everybody look just like heterosexuals who sleep with each other. The fact is that there is a whole large section of the gay community or the sexual minority community who is never going to vote Republican. There are drag queens, there are transsexuals, there are transgenderists, and there is a real groundswell in the “gay community to try and pretend that these people don’t exist and it drives me crazy.
Sounds like an attempt to "clean up” the gay community. Yeah, and to make the gay community look like the straight community. If you want to just be straight and sleep with other straight people of the same gender well that’s your own business and I’m not going to tell you not to do it, but what Stonewall and all this other shit is about, is the freedom to be who you are, and if you are a crossdresser or a transsexual or if you are a three-eyed monster from Mars, it’s nobody else’s business to tell you not to be that.
Is there prejudice in the gay community against transvestites, either in the bars or in the bedrooms? There is one real asshole bar here in Buffalo - he’s it real scum bag, his name is John Little please feel free to publish that name. All of his bars restrict entrance to crossdressers. But most of the gay community’s transvestites don’t have any lack of sleeping partners.
page 5: How is sexuality in the gender community being misunderstood? For example, we can’t make assumptions about what other people do (sexually), we can’t make assumptions about people’s desire. I was out with my friend Michelle who is a well known transsexual, as a matter of fact she was on the cover of the National Enquirer a few months ago. And well, I’m an active bisexual, and at that point I was dating a man and she said “You’re a transsexual you are supposed to be dating women now” and I said “I’m not supposed to be dating anyone.” who I date, who I sleep with is still pretty basically my choice. When I did this, I didn’t sign up to sleep with only straight women, that wasn’t in the contract.
Transsexuals make a big scrapheap out of everybody’s neat and tidy life. If they can tile us some. place they are happy but when they can’t they are tormented.
I heard that forty percent of male to female transsexuals are lesbians and I was wondering about the percentage of female to males who were practicing gay men? There was a show taped for Geraldo, on transsexual gays but they cut it they never showed it, it was too controversial. Nobody wants to talk about it specially the gay community. People want to be able to say “You’re transsexuals so you must do this,” and straight people especially think that transsexualism is just an extreme form of homosexuality. It makes everyone much more comfortable to believe this, it’s a nice and tidy way to understand the world.
No matter how feminine a man is inside he knows he’s a man…and it your core identity is female, you feel female.
I am not limiting myself in any way by being a butch lesbian, nor am I depriving myself of anything in order to squeeze myself into a box. I am not forcing myself away from the skirts and blouses when I go to buy clothes, nor do I cast longing glances towards the make up sections or stores as I pass them. I am not shutting down parts of myself, or denying myself to explore interests and inclinations in order to maintain an image of myself as a butch lesbian. These, together femininity as a whole, are simply things I’ve never found particularly interesting, intriguing, or compelling (neither on myself nor on others tbh). And I am certainly not depriving myself of anything by having no interest in or attraction to men.
I will be honest, I am also a very vain woman, with tendencies towards the impractical. But in me this vanity shows itself among others in the lengths I’ll go to find the perfect button up, my desire to wear a three-piece suit (even in the middle of a hot summer), and how I’ll buzz my own hair in my bathroom to ensure I have full artistic control. I am making an effort to find what makes me happy, and comfortable in my own skin. I was already like this, and then I happened to come across the term “butch” which seems to describe me well. I am happy to have found this term, as it has been useful in seeing myself in the continuum of other women, and have helped me find the writings and experiences of others like me. Because of this I’ve grown attached to the word butch, but in the end what’s important is that I’m a masculine lesbian woman, and very happy and comfortable to be this way.
“I am tired of the cult of youth. The cultural rejection of old age, the stigmatization of wrinkles, grey hair, of bodies furrowed by the years. I am fascinated by Diana Vreeland, Georgia O’Keeffe and Louise Bourgeois, women who have let time embrace them without ever cheating. Society today condemns this, me, I celebrate it. For this session of fine jewelry, I imagined a man and a woman who had been together for a long time, faithful to each other and always incandescent with desire.”
i keep seeing posts to the effect of “period blood isn’t special or different than other blood” and in spirit that’s true but i keep on having the autistic objection of “wait, I went through sex ed, it’s not actually the same thing as blood, it’s a mix of blood, enometrial tissue, and discharge/mucus”
periods happen because of the uterus developing and shedding endometrial lining on a roughly 28-day cycle. this is related to pregnancy but like everything about the reproductive system it is not solely related to pregnancy. the goal if you’re avoiding menstruation is for it to fail gracefully - i.e. no endometrial tissue develops, no period happens. (this is actually perfectly achievable for people not on testosterone, most doctors are just weird about it and insist on birth control cycling because they have weird ideas about women.) the danger whenever it stops (which can be caused by dietary irregularity, hormonal changes, etc) is that it hasn’t failed gracefully and endometrial tissue is still developing in the uterus, because if it gets stuck in there or escapes containment it can cause endometriosis, which is very dangerous. get that shit checked out if you’re experiencing weird pain or irregular periods you can’t explain some other way; endometriosis is detectable by a non-invasive ultrasound so looking for it isn’t even all that shitty
above all i think mystifying the bodily functions of roughly a third of the entire human population is a serious mistake, and one that laypeople aren’t alone in making (again, many doctors have extremely weird ideas about periods!). read up, stay on top of stuff, everyone’s got a body and you gotta be good to yours. be ready to advocate for yourself in the face of being blown off by doctors too, they’re routinely very ignorant and stubborn about taking uterine conditions seriously, especially if you’re visibly queer/trans/nonbinary
to the terfs in the notes losing their shit bc OP said one-third not one-half: one of the problems with equating “capable of menstruation” and “female” is that means people who are pre-menarche, post-menopause, or post-evicting-cancerous-uterus cannot be female, even though most such people understand themselves to be female
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GLaDOS: I spent some time researching common human insecurities so I might better insult you. I’ve discovered that physical insecurities often manifest due to feelings of envy stemming from comparing oneself to others.
GLaDOS: There are no other humans in this facility. Just you. Therefore, you lack a source of envy of which would trigger the feelings of insecurity in your tiny simple human brain.
GLaDOS: A shame, isn’t it? I thought so too. Which is why I’ve taken it upon myself to artificially create a humanoid body for myself so that you’ll have someone to envy. A female figure who is taller than you, more mature than you and has larger breasts than you. Gaze upon my new form of perfection and shrink away in your envy. You’ll never achieve this level of perfectio- why are you smiling at me like that. Stop it.
The weirdest dichotomy I’ve felt as a trans man is that, when I was a kid, I knew I was never allowed into a “sisterhood.” I always felt like an interloper around girls, and, because girls can be observant and intelligent (despite popular belief), I was treated as an interloper.
Now, as an adult, I’m treated like I was always part of “A Sisterhood” that I shunned, that I refused to join, so I ought to be punished for that horrific transgression.
I absolutely know other trans men* who did feel part of girlhood/womanhood, and there is literally nothing wrong with that. However, I just find it frustrating to be… denied my own experiences, my own story by (mostly cis) people who are uncomfortable with the idea that some people never felt part of “their circle.” It’s a weird arm of transphobia that simultaneously expells you from conformity but also blames you for not conforming (because you were never even given the opportunity to conform because, again, you were forced out of any space to conform to). Do you see what I mean?
it was the same for me as well - as the weird kid, i was shunned by both boys and girls. at some point i was old and aware enough socially to know that i somehow wasn’t girling right, but i couldn’t help it. it felt insurmountable. i didn’t “refuse” to join or anything, at least not initially, i just wasn’t given the handbook on how to do the “girl child” thing right.
i only got to feel like part of a “sisterhood” when i was in my twenties, once i got half decent at performing femininity. (or maybe the people surrounding me at that point were less tribalistic, kids and teens can be mean lil shits indeed.) even then, i felt like an interloper constantly on the verge of being found out and expelled. no matter how dolled up i was, no amount of makeup, skirts or carefully curated mannerisms made me feel like i rightfully belonged in women’s spaces.
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